Play is developmental and children pass through the stages of play from Interactive Play with an adult, to Independent Play to Parallel Play and finally to Co-operative Play.  Between the ages of 2-3 children who were playing side-by-side with other children begin to move towards each other and play together. For many children this is an easy and joyful transition but many other children struggle with the idea of sharing a toy, turn taking and playing co-operatively. Parents can help their child make this transition by playing with their children and teaching them how to share focus on the same toy, how to take turns and how to use language effectively for play. Choosing the right types of toys will also help transitioning from solo play to cooperative play.

I know I write about blocks all the time- but blocks are a natural toy for transitioning to cooperative play because there are so many blocks and that makes sharing easy. I love softblocks
especially for this transition and since the sets are themed the children can think together about making a castle or a farm based on the types of blocks they are using.

Step 2

Choosing a toy, which lends itself to turn taking, but where each child has a number of pieces, is a good next step.  A game like large dominoes has the children matching numbers of dots and one turn relies on the turn before. This game may have to be modeled by an adult but once understood is very enjoyable, educational and fun for youngsters.

As your child gains more language to understand others and express herself, her play with others will become more elaborate. Children begin to use their language to plan their play. Using the cottage they can discuss and plan the colors of the house and which section each of them will color. This activity actually lends itself to 2, 3 or 4 children playing together. Once their project is finished, it’s time for pretend play. Who will be the baby, the sister or parents? Will someone be the dog or cat? The possibilities are endless.

This next step might be an opportunity to play a sport together. I love mini-golf and every child I know loves it too. This is another game where turn taking is key. Children also learn about safety and as they get, older-score keeping. Then it is time to learn about winning, loosing and sportsmanship.  Amazing that all these skills are learned through play in a child’s early years!

As always,

Play and have FUN!